quinta-feira, 8 de janeiro de 2015

Trechos selecionados de 'Home Game - An accidental guide to fatherhood'

Trechos selecionados de Home Game - An accidental guide to fatherhood, de Michael Lewis.

My father took it almost as a matter of principle that most problems, if ignored, simply went away.

Memory loss is the key to human reproduction.

One of the many things I dislike about being a grown-up is the compulsion to have a purpose in life.

New parents are not rational; they worry about all sorts of things that it makes no sense to worry about. [When was the last time you saw a full-grown adult crawling around the streets on all fours?]

At some point in the last few decades, the American male sat down at the negotiating table with the American female and - let us be frank - got fleeced.

corollary to the rule about the fool at the poker table, that if you don't know who your wife is pissed off at, it's you.

The fact, as opposed to the theory, of life with a small child is an amoral system of bribes and blackmails. You do this for me, you get that. You don't do this, you don't get that.

that official statistics dramatically overstated the incidence of sudden infant death (...) because most of then were probably murder.

Maternal love may be instinctive, but paternal love is learned behavior.
A month after she was born, I would have felt only an obligatory sadness if she had been rolled over by a truck. Six months or so later, I'd thrown myself in front of the truck to save her.

1. Maternal propaganda. 2. Gift for mimicry. 3. Tendency to improve with age.

All the little things that you must do for a helpless creature to keep it alive cause you to love it.

The first rule of fatherhood is that if you don't see what the problem is, you are the problem.

The origin of vanity is not the desire to be admired by others but the need to be in charge. The other things just follows from it.

On of the many things about fatherhood is how it has perverted my attitude toward risk.
(neurotic, money, help other, flying, death)

It's astonishing how much trouble we take to prevent our children from seeing the world as it is.

Never underestimate your own insignificance.

For the whole of Stage1, a father performs no task more onerous than seeming busy when he isn't. In Stage2, he becomes, in a heartbeat, chauffeur, cook, nurse, gofer, personal shopper, Mr Fixit, sole provider and single parent.

The current wisdom holds that if you seem to be not all that interested in your new child the first time the older ones come to see him, you might lessen their suspection that he's come to pick their pockets.

A family is like a stereo system: a stereo system is only as good as its weakest component, and a family is only as happy as its unhappiest member.

"Do you know the data on siblings across species?" "Half the time they kill each other".

What you know is less important than who you know.

The problem with lucking out with your children is that your children don't appreciate their luck - and the lucky feeling is more than a half of the pleasure.

Like dreams, these fatherhood moments are easily forgotten and no doubt also a lot more interesting to the teller than to anyone else. But when they're forgotten, their lessons, such as they are, are lost. The vacuum winds up being filled by 'experts' on child rearing.

The final rule of fatherhood: if you're not bothered by it, or disturbed by it, or messed up from it, you're probably doing something wrong that will mess up your kids. You're probably doing something wrong anyway, but it's okay.

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